{"id":351,"date":"2012-06-13T13:40:03","date_gmt":"2012-06-13T17:40:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/dealersinhope.wordpress.com\/?p=351"},"modified":"2012-06-13T13:40:03","modified_gmt":"2012-06-13T17:40:03","slug":"how-do-we-reply-to-people-comments","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/patserver.ddns.net\/dealersinhope\/?p=351","title":{"rendered":"How do we reply to people comments"},"content":{"rendered":"

The road to success can not be achieve without the art of dealing with people comments toward you.
\n\"\"Learning how to properly respond to them could greatly improve your life.<\/p>\n

Here are the three main type of comments:<\/div>\n
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  1. Positive comments.<\/li>\n
  2. Negative, but constructive comments.<\/li>\n
  3. Negative, and destructive comments.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    How to deal with positive comments<\/strong><\/p>\n

    You must accept positive comments like you accept a personal gift.
    \nThe weird thing is that many people rejects positive comments.
    \nLook at those situations, you most likely already heard them.<\/p>\n

    \u201cYou look wonderful today\u201d
    \n– \u201cCome on, I look as always\u201d<\/p>\n

    \u201cYou did a great job\u201d
    \n– \u201cOh, It\u2019s nothing\u201d<\/p>\n

    \u201cYour new wrist watch is really nice\u201d
    \n– \u201cYeah, but it\u2019s not real gold\u201d<\/p>\n

    Responding like this is the same as putting away a gift from someone without looking at it.
    \nA right way to respond to a positive comment is so simple\u2026 You just have to say, \u201cThank you\u201d with a smile.<\/p>\n

    How to deal with negative, but constructive comments<\/strong>
    \nNegative, but constructive comments will help you get better. A lot of people get defensive when facing someone who make a negative-constructive comment.
    \nYou should be thankful when someone gives you a negative-constructive comment, it\u2019s for your best interest. A person with no interest in you, will simply shut-up on things you may doing wrong, and let you repeat them over and over.<\/p>\n

    Like with positive comments, the proper answer is a simple \u201cThank you for your feedback\u201d.<\/p>\n

    Just take the feedback from people, deeply think about it before going into a defensive mode too quickly and use it to correct yourself. This is a must to become a better person.
    \nThis is also helpful in work places and in business, take every colleagues or clients feedback in an effort to improve your work or business.<\/p>\n

    How to deal with negative and destructive comments<\/strong>
    \nNegative-destructive comments are intended to cause pain and not to help improvement.
    \nOften, the problem isn\u2019t with you at all, but with the person itself who probably struggle with many problems of his own.<\/p>\n

    The best thing to do when confronted with negative-destructive comments is just to let it flow like water on a rhinoceros carapace or like someone I know like to say, \u201clike a spit on a war tank\u201d.<\/p>\n

    We are forced to realise that many people are doing all the opposite of what we are suppose to do in response to those three comments. We dismiss positive comments, we fight negative-constructive ones, and we swallow the ones that are negative-destructive.<\/p>\n

    Learn to identify the difference between these three comments and force yourself to respond with the right attitude.
    \nSay \u201cThank you\u201d with a genuine smile to a positive comment.
    \nSay \u201cThanks for the feedback\u201d when confronted to a negative, but constructive comment, and use it to better yourself.
    \nAnd just let the negative-destructive comment flow down your back, and remember that it\u2019s usually a problem with the other person\u2019s attitude.<\/p>\n

    Thanks for reading,\u00a0Patric J. Dufficy<\/p>\n<\/div>\n